2020 has been a challenging year to say the least, but the silver lining is that there has been so much transformation, and I’ve been doing my best to ride the waves with a stronger mindset. Here’s what I plan to focus on for the rest of the year as we continue to grow and expand.
This mindset shift is a tough one because there’s a possibility that it goes deeper than we think. Letting go is often easier said than done. What it refers to is the practice of consciously leaving a thought, memory or belief behind, in the past, where it belongs, so that you can move forward with a new thought, feeling or belief. See how it has the potential to go deep? That’s why it’s a tough one.
Say you want to let go of a money block you are conscious of. Perhaps you believe that you need to work hard to make money. Start asking yourself these questions:
- What have you witnessed throughout your life that supports this thought?
- What have you witnessed throughout your life that doesn’t support this thought?
- What are you afraid of happening or transpiring if the thought wasn’t real?
- What can you say to yourself or do every day to help you let go of the thought?
There’s a release that happens when an old thought, memory or belief is no longer part of us. It doesn’t happen often though, because we resist letting go. Sometimes we just need to allow it to pass through us, so that we can move on.
This mindset shift is all about visualizing your “next level” self and consistently showing up and practicing the habits, behaviors and practices that that person has. We are always growing and evolving, and in order for it to happen in the way that you desire, you have to direct the course.
Now, before I go any further, I just want to remind you that this is not about perfection. You don’t have to show up perfectly as the best version of yourself every moment of every day in order for your life to be fulfilling. But, you do have to make an effort. And when you think about making an effort, think about the ease and flow that comes with it. This is an aligned action we’re talking about – the kind of action that feels really really good.
For example, if you envision yourself as someone who makes time for self-care everyday, maybe you integrate certain self-care practices into each day. And you want to do this in a way that will help you stay committed.
As you begin to make small shifts throughout your day and integrate little practices that become regular habits, you’ll begin to uplevel your identity, enabling you to become the type of person you most want to be.
To get started, ask yourself these questions:
- What does my next level identity do every day that I don’t do now?
- What is she achieving?
- What is unfolding in her life?
And if it doesn’t get any more challenging, this mindset shift is the icing on the cake. Allowing is equivalent to surrendering. When we surrender, we give up control and let someone else take the reins. As a recovering control freak, I struggle with this one the most. But I’ve realized that I don’t have to. And I’ve found a little trick that helps me with this.
Find a comfortable spot to let yourself either sit or lie down. You should be able to slouch and get really relaxed, so keep that in mind when selecting your spot.
- First, take 3 deep breaths.
- Second, relax your entire body starting from your head to your toes. Literally feel the sinking of your body into whatever it is you’re on.
- Now envision yourself on a bed of golden leaves, in golden light. The bed is supporting you and holding you.
- Repeat to yourself: I am safe. I am held. I am protected.
This is practice that really revitalizes my faith in something bigger than myself, and it also helps me to simply allow them (whether it’s the universe or God or your angels) to take control.
And there you go, 3 shifts to carry you through the end of 2020. This year has been life-changing for me and I’m sure you as well in so many ways. And while we have all grown in some way, my commitment is to continue the transformation for as long as it lasts.
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