In this week’s episode of Soul’d, I’m going to dive into the art of what I like to call Sovereign Surrender. This is a uniquely divine feminine quality that allows you to open up to possibilities through divine intervention in your business building endeavors.
Now, before I get started, let’s talk about what surrender is and isn’t. It’s not giving up. It’s not quitting. It’s not stopping. It has nothing to do with slowing momentum at all. In fact, it builds it by raising the bar and the standard for more and better. It’s a critical piece of the soul-aligned business building puzzle, and yet it’s so incredibly hard for us to do.
And that’s because in a way it feels like giving up. It can have that quality to it, especially to those of us who love having control. This was me. I “loved” controlling everything about me, the perception of me, the way I moved through the world. I would even sink my own ship if it meant that I could control its demise. Control made me feel safe. It made me feel strong. It made me feel steady even through the collapse of everything around me. And so much has collapsed in my life.
The Manifesting Methods actually pulled me out of that version of myself. I completed The Manifesting Methods myself this year, what I like to call the year of the Great Shed. I became a new version of me this year, and I let the old version of me – the one who felt like she had to control and earn and over-give and over-explain and make it work on breadcrumbs – I let her dissolve. I no longer accept breadcrumbs. My standards are at the level they need to be, and I’m finally open to receiving, because I’ve learned the art of the Sovereign Surrender. To learn more about The Manifesting Methods which are available in The Membership, head to the Get Guidance page of my website.
So, now that we know what surrender is not, what exactly is it? You can look at it in multiple ways, and I will explain each.
For starters, you can look at it as detachment. But detachment is not avoidance. It’s not selfishness. It’s a disconnect from excessive emotional investment. We detach from outcomes so that we can flow instead of forcing anything to happen in accordance with our will. Because if we are not detached, and something doesn’t happen the way we want it to, it will throw us off our balance. It will knock us down, and we will make it mean something about us that will make us then stop building momentum. This is what we don’t want. Another way to look at detachment is to see it as trust in life, in the divine, in whatever we are choosing to believe in. We trust that whatever is meant for us will find us and that everything that happens to us is actually for us and for the highest good of all.
You can also look at surrender as giving in. Sometimes that’s what it can feel like – not giving up, but giving in. What does it feel like when you give in to something? I bet it feels like compromising. I bet it feels like diplomacy. I bet it also feels freeing to loosen the grip a bit on whatever it is that you were holding on to. For me, giving in feels like releasing the pressure valve. Historically, I’ve put a lot of pressure on myself, and it was truly never necessary.
And finally, you can look at surrender as a moment for divine intervention to have a say. This is what I call sovereign surrender. It’s simply a moment for you to pause, let go, breathe and let life show you, give you or guide you to your next move.
I’m going to take a deeper dive on this last perspective of surrender because it is truly the perspective that speaks to me the most and it doesn’t get talked about very much when others are speaking of surrender.
I started my business back in 2013, and I will say this – it was a blind faith kind of move. I had zero prospective clients, zero entrepreneurial experience, zero direction or mentorship or guidance. I had my skillset, which was marketing, and I had a decent network of bodyworkers that I had met through managing the marketing department of a clinical massage therapy school.
And even with just those things – I was craving entrepreneurship. I was craving the lifestyle, the freedom, the feeling of it, the identity it would grant me – all of it. I couldn’t wait to become an entrepreneur and I was hungry for it. I would do all of the networking events. I would create all of the partnerships. I would hustle for it, and I did.
I’d be lying if I said I didn’t enjoy it. There was an ease to my work, a flow to it. I was attracting a variety of clientele and partnerships with other digital marketers and agencies. I was offering and trying out all of the marketing services – PR, media relations, social media management, copywriting, email marketing, SEO – you name it, I probably did or at least understood it to such a degree that I was able to execute it. And I was good at it.
But something quickly shifted. I started to crave something more. I started to crave depth.
Because all I would see around me was superficial garbage. Nobody was speaking to the truth of their heart that related to the strength of their work. Nobody was willing to market anything outside of the natural byproducts of their work. Nobody was talking about the actual transformation they provide. Everything and everyone was missing truth – the kind of truth that is rooted in the soul.
And that’s what I was craving – marketing that cultivated a deeper truth about the work of soulpreneurs who were ready and willing to show up, be seen and shine.
My work started to shift. I pulled back on working with everyone and offering every service to focusing specifically on getting the message right down to the essence of it. What is it that matters to you so much about your work and why? And how do we share this with the world in a way that is fully aligned and authentic? That is the question I had with every client. This is what The Marketing Methods helps them achieve.
And then this expanded because while getting to the right message is half the battle, being capable of showing up for it in a way that is full of confidence, clarity and conviction is another. This is what The Manifesting Methods does. It helps you become the soulpreneur you were always meant to be by unbecoming everything that isn’t reflective of who you truly are.
Now, as I personally used the methods for my own soulpreneur journey, there was still a part of me that didn’t fully understand that if I’m going to use the divine within me, I’ve got to also use the divine around me. If I’m making a commitment to my calling, I can’t be the one in full control. I have to allow myself to be carried and held and guided by something greater than me.
Give Space for Divine Intervention: Sovereign Surrender
This is for the moments that truly call for surrender. For me, it’s usually when I can’t go any further myself and when I truly don’t know the next move. Because, this is when it gets tricky. You’re in the dark. You’ve done everything you can do. You’ve set yourself up for what’s next. And now there’s no clear step to take. When you’re at the edge of something – when you have no step to take and no options for an action – do not pull back your energy. This is not a sign to quit. This is not a sign to stop. You can still build momentum in this moment. The momentum comes from your sovereign surrender in this moment. It’s not an act of giving up. It’s an act of acknowledging that you’ve taken this as far as you can, and now, divine intervention is required. I’m personally in one of these moments right now.
Here’s how it’s different from past similar moments: Whenever I couldn’t see an opportunity forward, when momentum seemed to stall, or even when I felt like I was backtracking, this would be an edge. It would be the call to rise. However, because of the edge factor, I would quickly and quietly diminish myself and back away thinking, “all is doomed,” and “I’m not cut out to be an entrepreneur,” and “woe is me.” I’m sure you can relate to this moment. But here’s the thing, there is no reason to make meaning out of this moment, especially a negative meaning.
This is where it gets tricky. Humans are naturally wired to think our survival is at stake, even when it’s totally not. It has been ingrained in us that we are not inherently safe. There’s danger everywhere, even perceived threats need to be taken seriously. And so we armor up. We look for control. We look for certainty. We do everything we can, even if it means sinking our own ship, just so that we can control its downfall.
This moment requires a softening. It requires a slowness. It’s letting grace in. But you get to keep your power because you’re doing this in honor of your higher self. You’re letting her take the lead. You’re letting her have a say. Energy will naturally flow where you are meant to go. You will know it. You’re not being passive; you’re calling in what’s true. You’re letting what’s more aligned and what’s truer to arrive. If it’s painful in any way, convince your ego that it’s for your highest and best. Nothing is ever really lost; it’s only transformed. Holding on doesn’t protect you; it constricts you. So, let go. Let go of all of it. Let God, Source, the Universe, Love, whatever you choose to believe in, carry you forward on your next move and beyond. You’ll know when to act. You’ll know what to do. It will be so obvious for you, but first, you must trust.
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