Lately the Soul’d content has felt a lot like life updates, and it’s not an accident.
It’s because I’m the walking representation of my own transformation.
I’m the living embodiment of my work.
I walk the talk and speak to the transformation with honesty and transparency.
I became Soul’d – not just within my business but within every area and aspect of my life.
I’m coming out of January with massive realizations – all around what I help people attune to – alignment.
January is often a time that society urges us to optimize ourselves. We get gym memberships, wellness packages, order all the supplements, de-clutter our homes, set big goals and make investments towards our lives and businesses.
I did none of that – partly because I feel much more attuned to hibernating come January 1, and partly because my body simply won’t let my ego run the show anymore.
So as everyone around me decided to pile on more, I decided to do less – work less, move less, plan less… while also listening more, nourishing more, and resting more.
What I didn’t realize at the time was doing less wasn’t the work. Trust was the work.
But here’s the thing – trust wasn’t something I had to cultivate. It is what emerged when I stopped looking for a reason to doubt it.
This blog is a reflection of what happens when you stay aligned with yourself as you shed everything that isn’t you.
It’s what happens when you stop letting the outside influence the inside and let the opposite happen.
It’s what happens when you let everything external from you get less of a say in how you live and work, while you attune to how your truest self wants to live and work.
It’s what happens when you stop performing alignment and start living it.
Because here’s what I’ve learned: Alignment isn’t about doing more. It’s about trusting what happens when you stop forcing more.
And trust is not passive. Trust is choosing not to interfere when truth is already moving.
For those of us who are actively shedding survival patterns, conditional love programming, and layers of our egos, know that you are doing this right.
The edge of a new beginning doesn’t feel like activation or courage.
It feels like staying, even when nothing is asking you to prove yourself anymore.
When things grow quiet.
When effort no longer earns you anything.
When life doesn’t need to be chased to respond.
Here are 6 ways alignment shows up as “doing less” within “The Shed” – and why staying with what’s true is the right move.
#1: Rest that Repairs – Not Rest that Disconnects
If you tuned into last week’s episode, you’ll not only notice a hoarse voice but also a very transparent breakdown of what I was actively moving through. For me, the first weeks of January were all about refinement. Following the busyness of the holidays and the long break off school with my boys, I focused primarily on my business – refining every offering, every landing page, every email – even every lesson within my self-study programs for The Marketing Methods and The Manifesting Methods. The end result was coherence – reflecting an updated version of my teachings which of course, reflected my essence more accurately.
The third week of January was all about refining my outreach strategy, but the last week looked a little different than the momentum I was going to start building. Because of the sickness I was dealing with, I was required to fully rest and recuperate.
Now, an older version of me would’ve taken this opportunity to fully stop everything. I would’ve stopped everything – my weekly emails, my content, all of it. But everything remained scheduled, because the systems that I have in place allow for spontaneous rest to happen. I didn’t disappear. I integrated.
Not all rest is the same. Some rest is dissociation. Some rest is repair. The body knows the difference. When you’re moving in a way that is healing, the body can feel it. Trust your body enough to stay present.
#2: Returning Gently Is an Act of Trust
I’ve mentioned this in a previous episode, but I’ve got a lot of willpower. I have an incredible capacity for self-discipline. These are a few of my former survival strategies. Now, I am much gentler with myself. So, I’ve returned from sickness without the pressure to return running out of the gate.
The most vulnerable moment in any healing cycle isn’t the collapse – it’s the return. And what I chose to do with myself, for maybe the first time ever, was return gently, gracefully and in fully trust with my body. Pushing my body would only set us back. Negotiating with my body would have made me lose the trust I had already been building. And so I chose to move slowly, intentionally and with a level of predictability.
Most people undo their healing the second they feel better by sprinting back into performance. Rushing back breaks the healing cycle. The body will not and cannot sustain that when you are shedding old ways of being and doing. This is where doing less happens naturally, because your system no longer believes it needs to push in order to be met.
#3: When You Stop Holding Everything Together, Nothing Falls Apart
One of my strongest and most outdated beliefs was that, “if I stop, everything will crumble.” This couldn’t be further from the truth, and what I realized is that this type of all-or-nothing thinking is what prevents true manifestation from happening. What was actually dissolving wasn’t momentum; it was the belief that I had to try harder in order to be supported by life.
If you’ve been listening to me or reading my work for awhile, you know that I believe most of the manifesting work taught today is simply another version of efforting alongside the old paradigm of force, pressure and “making things happen.”
True manifestation isn’t a result of your will. It’s a result of your truth. What happens when you no longer believe you need to try harder in order to be met? Can you trust circumstances, people, things, situations to meet you halfway? Can you let them? Or do you need to control every aspect of your life? This is called resistance, and when you leak energy in this – meaning, when you feel compelled to put your influence on everything and do so, you’re actively resisting the flow of life and sabotaging possibility.
For me, I didn’t hold everything together this time. And somehow… nothing broke. Life met me and is continuing to meet me in ways that I find remarkable, and it’s because my energy is contained… to me.
Doing less brought me more and cultivated more trust within myself and with life.
#4: Alignment Doesn’t Break Through – It Settles In
Alignment doesn’t break through. It settles in once there’s nothing left to push against. Once effort releases its grip, truth doesn’t need to announce itself. It simply remains. It’s all that’s left.
If you’re waiting for healing to feel like a breakthrough, you might miss the moment it actually lands. Along the same lines, if you’re waiting for alignment to feel like an aha-moment, you might be surprised when it actually feels calm, boring and like nothing happened.
I personally don’t believe that alignment is a feeling – it’s a standard. We are constantly discerning towards what is aligned and what we choose is based on which version of ourselves is leading our life – our essence or our ego. Your ego loves familiarity. Your essence loves truth. And more often than not – you’re trusting the calm over the chaos.
When your essence is coming alive during a shedding period, you may find that you are no longer growing by effort. You’re growing by withdrawing from distortion, removing unnecessary contact points, and trusting the stability that you feel. You’re simply unobstructed and less tolerant of anything or anyone that obstructs your light.
I’ll be honest, I’ve had many breakthrough moments in my life. But around all of those big breakthroughs were micro moments where lifelong patterns instantly shifted. Things became simple… not from doing more, but from doing way less and letting truth rise.
#5: The Nervous System Trusts Integrity, Not Intention
I’ve mentioned this in a previous episode, but more often than not, people are trying to heal themselves, build businesses and live the life of their dreams while doing all of it in a way that contradicts their truth. Their collapse is inevitable.
The nervous system doesn’t respond to intention. It doesn’t respond to a never-ending series of affirmations. It responds to consistency without force. It responds to trusting safety over control.
You can have the best intentions in the world and still not feel safe in your own body.
Alignment requires radical honesty during the shed, because if you continue to hold on to what no longer serves you or suits you, it will always have a say in your life. And you deserve only what is meant for you.
#6: Possibility is on the Other Side of Bracing
In every aspect of my life – my finances, my relationships, my body, my business – alignment has allowed me to see all of the ways that I brace.
Bracing can look like: preparing for disappointment before it comes, holding your breath when something good starts happening, shrinking or dimming yourself so no one gets upset, thinking “I shouldn’t need too much,” or assuming the rug will get pulled out.
Bracing doesn’t happen because you’re broken. It happens because at some point, your system learned that being fully open wasn’t safe. And so we close ourselves – to love, to possibility, to life meeting us, and we allow ourselves to have control over everything, in a bracing posture, and tell ourselves we’re safer this way.
When we choose to release these behaviors and patterns that come from bracing, alignment shows us not only what should truly remain, but also what’s possible on the other side.
Bracing kept me functional, but standing down is what is allowing me to actually live. On the other side of bracing is a lot more ease, a lot less noise and a lot more… me.
In Closing
More often than not, alignment is a result of the shed.
That standard you’ve been actively choosing as the truest version of you… keep choosing it. It’s keeping you in alignment. It’s keeping you on your highest timeline, in your highest frequency and living in truth.
Your life may feel less disruptive, less chaotic, and more contained, but that was actually the whole point. You’ve removed the patterns, structures, systems and automatic ways of being and doing that used to run the show now.
Alignment gets to run the show now. That means life gets to meet you now. The Universe can meet you now – in truth, in resonance, in coherence.
The shed brought you to a place of peace – where your essence can light the way, and you can move forward in trust… With yourself and with life.
The moment you no longer believe you need to try harder is the moment you trust that you are enough… and that life knows how to meet you there.
If your life feels quieter, steadier, and less dramatic right now – you’re not off track.
You’re finally available for what’s true.
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