I wanted to share what I’ve been moving through lately… and that’s deeper alignment with who I am and how I’m meant to make an impact.
And along the way, I’ve made some pretty big realizations around what alignment is and isn’t. Doing so has really shown me how disconnected the spiritual community has really been in regards to alignment.
Alignment, for many, is seen as this big fluffy cloud that carries you to this dream life. To many, if you’re moving in alignment, you’re making decisions that feel good and right and comfortable.
If you’re one of these people, you may be running on a loop of choosing familiarity, over and over again. Because alignment is not comfortable. More often than not, it puts you on the edge.
That edge is where your essence meets your ego.
Most of us choose our ego. It’s safe. It’s certain. It’s familiar.
A few of us will choose our essence – what we know to be true but have been afraid to act on, or say, or embody.
And while alignment is a journey itself, there most certainly is a destination. The destination isn’t a place or a person or a circumstance. It’s integrity. When you’re moving in alignment, you’re moving towards full integrity with yourself. That’s the end goal. If you haven’t landed on integrity, you aren’t moving in alignment.
When I started my business 13 years ago, I was aligned.
I’ve made a myriad of decisions since then – some in alignment, some not.
The decisions that were misaligned were caused by a lack of integrity with my truth, my essence.
And lately, the understanding of what alignment truly is has come full circle, because I’m finally moving – living, being and loving – as someone who is in full integrity with myself.
Alignment is not about becoming someone new. It’s about removing everything that prevents you from being who you already are—fully, consistently, and in integrity.
Here are 5 ways that prove it’s your entire business strategy…
Alignment reframes rest as a business growth lever, not a pause.
Rest became my most strategic business decision, because I wasn’t in a position to hold what I wanted to see unfold in my business. Not only was I running on fumes from managing too much on the home front, I wasn’t fully embodying the version of me who could hold everything I wanted in business. This included higher paying clients, offerings that felt edgy and impactful, and content that spoke to deeper truths rather than surface-level hype. I couldn’t hold any of that until I became the person who could. My identity, at its core, needed some rewiring.
So while I was resting and recalibrating, I endured something I call the great shed. I shed all of the pain, programming and patterns from my past that made it impossible for me to step into the most expansive version of me. I was essentially dissolving my ego. It brought me to essence – to the truth about me. For the first time in my life, I felt the frequency of unconditional love come through. Tapping into that frequency is truly how I was able to step into the version of me who could hold what I truly desired.
On the outside, and to the world around me, it probably looked like I paused my business multiple times over the years. For much of it, I did. I paused to come back to myself, and it was totally worth it. There’s a difference between being ready for more and being able to actually hold it. If you find yourself lingering in the energy of the former, it may be time for some much needed rest – that’s actually an active shed of who you’re not, so that you can become who you’re meant to be.
Alignment isn’t just about flow. It’s about precision.
Alignment more often feels like you’re flowing with the current instead of against it. Many refer to it as a state of effortless flow, clarity and inner peace. Being out of alignment often brings with it a sense of heaviness, stuckness, and frustration.
However, you move through varying degrees of alignment based on who you are as you’re moving through them. Meaning, the dominant version of you is always taking the lead. Whatever is in alignment with the contracted version of you – the one who is hiding, afraid to express themselves, or who feels confused with how to proceed – makes different aligned choices than the expansive version of you.
The expansive version of you has an internal standard that they uphold. They are consistent with their efforts, devoted to their calling, and they move like they are on purpose. They are intentional with their movements, and alignment for this version of you is a way of life.
The question is not whether you are moving in alignment, but rather, are you moving in accordance with the version of you that you actually want to be?
Alignment doesn’t give you reassurance. It gives you responsibility.
The spiritual community has a tendency to lack integrity. There are spiritual people who claim to be calling in abundance, but they are avoiding personal responsibility in taking control of their life as the version of them who is fully capable of doing so. There are spiritual people who are facing their shadows – the pain, patterns and programming of their past – and yet they are stuck in a never-ending saga of personal development, hoping that one day they will simply arrive and finally be healed.
You can’t manifest your way out of this without first noticing the patterns from the version of you that brought you to this place. You don’t need to feel shame or guilt or anything towards that version of you either. You need to accept it. That’s love. Love is acceptance.
The spiritual community can really evolve once it begins to understand responsibility not as pressure, but as peace. My definition of responsibility is simply the ability to respond in integrity. This definition positions my moves in a way that doesn’t feel like self-punishment, but freedom. I get to choose how to respond, and because I choose my higher self, I choose from that place.
Alignment doesn’t show you the way. It helps you cultivate greater discernment.
Alignment isn’t a mythical magical method towards finding your way through life. But it does help you discern between truth and illusion.
What much of the manifestation matrix will teach you is rooted in illusion – that you can trick yourself into making something happen, where you can affirm what you deserve without any practical steps involved, where you can fake your frequency and pretend to be someone you’re not so that you can get what you want.
You can’t trick the Universe. You can’t fake a frequency. And you can’t make something appear out of thin air. This is all called magical thinking.
What you can do is become the version of you who has the capacity to accept their reality, take responsibility for their life choices, move with intention and in integrity towards what they actually want to experience, with discernment. Hold yourself to a standard of not tolerating anything that doesn’t amplify your expansion and work on your capacity to discern what that actually looks and feels like within yourself.
Alignment doesn’t ask for more confidence. It asks you to have internal consistency.
External consistency is one thing. Momentum is built moment by moment, and each moment is a choice to move forward or fall back. Internal consistency is another. How are you moving through life, day in and day out in a way that doesn’t allow you to collapse in on yourself? How do you hold yourself up even on the bad days? How do you maintain integrity when it’s hard, when it’s fragile, or when you just want to give up?
Your internal consistency is key. Your body is always watching, always listening. You need to teach it new ways of being, not just doing. How do you listen to yourself? How do you nurture yourself? How do you stay true to yourself?
There’s a saying – “as within, so without. As above, so below.” If your internal landscape is confused, inconsistent, dysregulated, under-nourished, chaotic and anything else like that, your external landscape will be the same. This is why nervous system work is so imperative to this process. However, nervous system work needs to have an objective outside of making you feel safe as you are. You need to ensure you’re stabilizing yourself as you become the version of you that you need to be. This requires that you be attuned to how you move as the contracted version of you and the expansive version of you. Your goal is to increasingly move as the latter.
Bottom line: Your frequency sets the standard, but your decisions enforce it.
Your journey as an entrepreneur is essentially a journey of self-discovery, and if you’re someone with a calling, your essence is absolutely required in bringing that calling to life. You need to reach your essence first, so that you can make decisions that are aligned with that. The most expansive version of you is letting your essence, your higher self, your energetic signature lead the way.
If this resonates, this is the work I do inside Soul’d.
I don’t help you “feel aligned.” I help you become the version of yourself who moves in integrity, makes precise decisions, and can actually hold what they desire.
If you’re ready to experience alignment as a lived strategy (not a concept) you’re invited to explore my current offerings.
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