This blog comes at a time when I have really started to manifest miracles. And by “come in” for me, I mean that things just started to fall into place, like magic. My energy is creating connections, situations and circumstances that I would only think were possible if I was dreaming. And that’s because I dwell at a higher frequency. I’ve brought my energy up to such a degree that I’m living fully within my higher purpose, which is not just what I meant to bring to the world through my calling, but is also who I am meant to be and how I am meant to live.
Now, I don’t want to get carried away, because there’s no such thing as a perfect life. I’m dealing with a lot of craziness too. And a lot of it is cleaning up the mess that was a result of an older version of me – the version of me who settled for less, who drifted through life and who did not feel worthy of more than what I had. I’m a completely different version of myself and it’s showing in my reality. My reality is catching up to who I am now, and that’s how it happens. I connected to my essence which is pure abundance and because of that, life is mirroring that abundance back to me in people, places, things and situations.
Because of the work that I’ve done within myself, with the help of my Money Methods that are available in my Membership, I have the capacity to handle a lot. That means I can handle a lot of wonderful things and a lot of chaos. My nervous system has been conditioned to such a degree that I can handle it all. In this week’s blog, I’m going to share the 10 shifts that made this possible for me.
Shift #1: When I decided to truly believe in the power of my essence.
This is way easier said than done. Now, notice the words I’m using: When I decided to believe in *the power* of my essence. There is an emphasis on the power here, because it took me a long time to realize that my essence is the most powerful part of me. It’s my highest frequency, my universal signal, and my higher self. Believing in your essence is one thing. Believing in its power is another. We can all get to our essence by shedding everything that isn’t reflective of who we are. However, it takes an extra step to believe in the power of your essence – to believe in the ability of your essence to be the creator of your life without you having to force anything to happen.
Your essence is what makes things happen for you without effort. Can you truly believe that that is possible? Can you believe in your magic? In your frequency? In your energy? Is it enough for you? Or are you too tied to the worldly world and the need to hustle and grind and make things happen at your own hand, because you have to make it happen or else it won’t. In other words, can you be met halfway with a power that is greater than you? Can you believe that there is magic outside of you too? Things to think about.
Shift #2: When I decided I was going to build momentum by showing up consistently, regardless of my mood, the lack of validation from the external world or my internal loops that kept me stuck.
When you’re building a soul-aligned business, you can’t show up for it as the old, outdated version of you. The version of you who stops and starts, the version of you who show up inconsistently, the version of you who moves based on your mood, the version of you who’s looking for someone or something to come in and save you, or do it for you, or tell you what to do. Only you can do this work. It doesn’t mean you have to burn yourself out. It just means you have to lock in. You have to have an anchor that keeps you in your purpose. Drifting in and out of your purpose is what slows and stalls momentum. If momentum is built moment by moment, then all you have to do is not stop. Don’t give up. Don’t give in. And if I know you, you will never give up on the thing that you know you’re meant to do. It’s a part of who you are. It’s your calling. It’s on your heart and it’s in your mind all the time. It’s what you came here for and what you will be remembered for. You have no choice but to do it.
Shift #3: When I decided that the newer version of me was going to take the wheel and drive.
This took some time to integrate because the old version of me fought like hell to stay stuck. For reference, the old version of me was heavy in my ego. And our egos like to keep us safe and in comfort and focused on surviving. But the work of living a life with your essence leading the way requires risk. It requires leaps. It requires uncertainty and discomfort.
This might have been the hardest part of the battle – not letting the old version of me get the best of me. The new me would call out the older version as necessary but she was still in the driver’s seat. I made sure that I stayed in the driver’s seat no matter what. The newer version of me is obsessed with my calling. She’s obsessed with her work – not in a way that is toxic or based in a hustle mode, but obsessed in a way that is devoted and disciplined and focused and on assignment. She moves like she was chosen for this, because she really truly believes she is.
Shift #4: When I decided that I was going to move right when I felt the call to move.
This was me getting in touch with my intuition and really letting it lead me. It’s hard because we want our instincts to make sense, and so we try to make sense of our felt sense, but that simply cannot work when you’re following your heart over your mind. And so, regardless of how nonsensical the nudge may seem, I take it seriously and move accordingly with what I believe is in my best interests, long term. I’m always asking myself: What is good for me now and great for me later? If something doesn’t feel right or if it feels short-lived or too good to be true, I’m out. No questions. No explanations. Just out. And it’s fine. I stay open to what’s next.
Shift #5: When I decided that I was going to keep myself accountable around my distractions and self-sabotaging ways.
I love a good distraction. I don’t doom scroll, I call it joy scrolling. I’m happy with my feed on Instagram, even if it does get a little weird sometimes. (That’s usually my cue to take a break.) But Instagram is truly my greatest distraction, and it takes some serious focus for me to reign it in. Aside from scrolling, my not so lovely ways include: “not knowing what to do next,” busying myself with unnecessary work or drama, caring too much about anything else that I really don’t need to care about. But the more that you are aware of these ways, the better you can course correct. It just takes some radical honesty and a willing heart. We forget that sometimes. A willing heart is really all you need most of the time, because when you’re willing, you’re capable, you’re taking action and you’re tuned in.
Shift #6: When I decided that I was going to let people and situations be who and what they are, show me who and what they are, and rise to meet me where I am versus where they are.
This is an interesting one, because I didn’t realize how much attention I put on my connections versus the attention that I put on myself. When you do this work of rediscovering yourself and reconnecting to your essence, you meet yourself as a mirror with everyone else. And you will get information and data. And here’s the thing – you’ve got to use it for your own good, not for anyone else. We can’t fix people; we can only fix ourselves.
What I discovered is that I really want everyone to like me. I really want to go above and beyond in relationships. I am a giver, and while it’s my greatest blessing, it’s also been my greatest curse. I over-compensated in relationships that weren’t reciprocated. I cared more for others than I did for myself. And I over-extended my energy, my time, my resources in ways that I shouldn’t have. I allowed myself to be drained over and over again. But once I made this realization, once I made the unconscious part of me conscious, it shifted. So much changed for me. I am now able to meet people where they are. I covet my relationships that truly make me feel seen and heard and appreciated. I let people be who they are. I let them rise to meet me or stay where they are. I never abandon myself to make a relationship work. I see my value much more clearly now.
Shift #7: When I became the type of business owner I wanted to be in order to hold what I wanted to hold in my business.
Your soul-aligned business needs your boss level energy – but I’m not talking about the current boss babe matrix. I’m talking you, as your most authentic self, free of all the bullshit – outdated attachments, old ways of thinking and being, feeling less than and in a lack mentality, moving from fear instead of faith, showing up in a way that just doesn’t feel right or even not showing up at all. I did all of the above, and I didn’t put enough energy into my business for a long time. I put a lot of energy into my kids, into my home, into my well-being, and just recently, I decided to match that energy in my business. Surprisingly, nothing else suffered, except for the things that kept me distracted and off my purpose.
You know there are things holding you back and you know it’s all part of a broken and outdated version of you. If you want your business to set you free – to nourish your life with opportunities, resources, wealth and abundance – you have to set yourself free first. You have to not only release everything that holds you back, but you have to tap into the version of you who knows you were chosen for this, who anchors into their mission and sticks with it.
Shift #8: When I started to move from a place of fullness, sourced from within.
When you move like you were chosen for this, you take such good care of yourself. You are nourished, loved and sourced from within. I didn’t always have a specific workout and nutrition protocol but now I do, because it makes me feel like I’m nurturing and sustaining and preserving myself. I didn’t always get ready, meaning putting on makeup and an actual outfit everyday, but now I do, because it makes me feel like I can tackle anything. I didn’t always honor my body the way I should because my energy was too scattered. I was giving too much and not receiving into myself enough. Once I became devoted to my body, to my mind, to my spirit, I put myself first which allowed me to trust myself more. That means I trusted my intuition more, my gut instincts more and honored my energy more.
Something we tend to forget is that nothing outside of us will make us feel whole, worthy, and valuable. The source of all of that is from within. Nothing will ever be enough for you if you are not already enough without all of it. You have to be your own source. Nothing outside of you will move you more accurately and efficiently than you will move yourself.
Shift #9: When I detached from all outcomes and decided that what is aligned for me will find me and me living on purpose is truly all I will ever need.
Because it’s all I ever wanted. We all want to live on purpose, in our divine mission. Yes, because we live in the worldly world, we need all of the things we need to survive. But if you’re living in your divine purpose, you will be divinely resourced. I can state this with absolute certainty because there were moments in my life where I fully believed I was going to fall short – especially financially. But I was also well-resourced. I never fell short when it mattered most, and I was usually at the end of the rope when those moments happened.
Detaching from outcomes doesn’t mean avoidance. It doesn’t mean you just drift through life and do nothing about it. It doesn’t mean you stop caring. It simply means you know like you know like you know that because you are at the frequency you are at, which is your highest most authentic expression of energy, everything that happens is for your highest good. You trust life to mirror for you what you need to adjust and attune to. You trust yourself to handle everything that comes your way because you’ve done the inner work that has built up your capacity for more. Detachment is trust.
Shift #10: When I really truly started to believe in myself.
This sounds like Shift #1 but it’s kind of different.
One of my sayings that I absolutely love is this: People can no longer be sold to; they must be soul’d to. Because that’s honestly the realization that came out of The Marketing Methods. These methods are each roadmaps that work cohesively to help you capture the truth about your work; that thing that matters to you so much about what you do so that you can share it with the world with clarity, confidence and conviction.
But here’s the realization that followed and that prompted me to create The Manifesting Methods: In order to truly sell with soul, and let others be soul’d, you’ve gotta be soul’d first. You’ve gotta believe in you first, and show up in that energy first, and then be seen and shine in that same vibration. Nobody will believe in you more than you believe in yourself. When you become a believer in yourself, you move differently. You swing bigger. You show up, be seen and shine in a way that is truly aligned with your soul.
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