Category: Wellbeing

Cultivating an Empowering Belief System

Your Belief System: Cultivating One that Empowers You

Beliefs define the way we see the world, and we see the world differently based on our unique set of beliefs. This is known as your belief system.

However, you aren’t born with these beliefs. These beliefs are formed by experiences, deductions, inferences, and what other people tell us. Believe it or not, most of our beliefs are developed by 7 years old and last until adulthood. 

Now, research suggests that we don’t use reason and logic to decide whether or not we believe something. We believe first, and we look for evidence everywhere that the belief is fact. 

And beliefs carry emotion, which turns into action, which influences the way we live. Whatever your belief system entails about your career, relationships, finances or even your abilities, they create your life for you. 

The good news is negative and limiting beliefs can be changed. We just have to dig deeper, define the limit, and think differently. 

Here are the steps that you can take to cultivate empowering beliefs.

You can apply these questions to any area of your life, like finances or relationships or your health, but for our purposes, we’re going to focus on your beliefs around starting and running your own business. 

Step 1… Dig Deeper

First, you’ll answer the following question: What do you believe about starting and running your own business?

If you feel stuck, you can refer to the following prompts:

  • Who do you need to be?
  • What do you need to have?
  • How much do you need to work?
  • What does success look like?
  • How do you know when you’ve succeeded?

For me, I truly believed that I would have to grind and hustle and work endless hours and be so stressed all the time in order to succeed. Being in this constant state of stress meant that I was accomplishing something and therefore on the right path. The more that I would work the more money I would make. And succeeding for me only meant that I had money. 

Step 2… Define the Limit

Second, you’re going to analyze each of your beliefs. This is where you define the limits that you’ve set for yourself. 

So, you would ask yourself these questions:

  • What evidence proves that this belief is true?
  • What evidence proves that this belief isn’t true?
  • At what point in your life did you decide this belief was your truth?
  • What would it feel like if this wasn’t your truth?

For me, as a child, my father was always working and always providing. We had nice things, a nice house, nice vacations. I never worried about money. My definition of success was established as a child when I lived a very privileged life based on the money we had. Because of the money we had, we were able to do things and see things. Success to me was defined by what I had, what we had as a family. If this wasn’t my truth, then I didn’t know how to define my worth. What I’m worth is based on how much money I have. I would have to define my value and worth differently. If this wasn’t my truth, then I would have a new purpose. Success would be based on my degree of happiness and satisfaction. 

Step 3… Think Differently

Third and lastly, you’re going to condition yourself to think differently. Think about what would truly make you the happiest person you know. 

You can ask yourself these questions:

  • What new beliefs can you cultivate around starting and running a business?
  • What does success look like for you without your limiting beliefs? 
  • Who can you be without the limiting beliefs?
  • What can you do more of that you enjoy?
  • How can you ensure that you focus on finding evidence of your new beliefs?

For me, I believe that if I focus on what brings me joy, I will be happier. If I come from a place of compassion and service, I will help more people, and therefore live purposefully. Without the limiting beliefs, I can live in flow and with ease. I can follow the guidance within me and around me and look for signs that I’m on the right path, which I do regularly. Success for me looks like service. It looks like gratitude. If I’m helping one person, I’m doing what I am meant to do. If I keep serving, I will fulfill my potential. If I surrender and release control, I will see only joy and love. 

How can you transform your limiting beliefs into an empowering belief system?

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3 Mindset Shifts to Get Through 2020

3 Mindset Shifts to Get Through 2020

2020 has been a challenging year to say the least, but the silver lining is that there has been so much transformation, and I’ve been doing my best to ride the waves with a stronger mindset. Here’s what I plan to focus on for the rest of the year as we continue to grow and expand. 

Letting Go: 

This mindset shift is a tough one because there’s a possibility that it goes deeper than we think. Letting go is often easier said than done. What it refers to is the practice of consciously leaving a thought, memory or belief behind, in the past, where it belongs, so that you can move forward with a new thought, feeling or belief. See how it has the potential to go deep? That’s why it’s a tough one.

Say you want to let go of a money block you are conscious of. Perhaps you believe that you need to work hard to make money. Start asking yourself these questions:

  1. What have you witnessed throughout your life that supports this thought?
  2. What have you witnessed throughout your life that doesn’t support this thought?
  3. What are you afraid of happening or transpiring if the thought wasn’t real?
  4. What can you say to yourself or do every day to help you let go of the thought?

There’s a release that happens when an old thought, memory or belief is no longer part of us. It doesn’t happen often though, because we resist letting go. Sometimes we just need to allow it to pass through us, so that we can move on.

Upleveling Identity:

This mindset shift is all about visualizing your “next level” self and consistently showing up and practicing the habits, behaviors and practices that that person has. We are always growing and evolving, and in order for it to happen in the way that you desire, you have to direct the course. 

Now, before I go any further, I just want to remind you that this is not about perfection. You don’t have to show up perfectly as the best version of yourself every moment of every day in order for your life to be fulfilling. But, you do have to make an effort. And when you think about making an effort, think about the ease and flow that comes with it. This is an aligned action we’re talking about – the kind of action that feels really really good. 

For example, if you envision yourself as someone who makes time for self-care everyday, maybe you integrate certain self-care practices into each day. And you want to do this in a way that will help you stay committed. 

As you begin to make small shifts throughout your day and integrate little practices that become regular habits, you’ll begin to uplevel your identity, enabling you to become the type of person you most want to be. 

To get started, ask yourself these questions: 

  • What does my next level identity do every day that I don’t do now?
  • What is she achieving?
  • What is unfolding in her life?

Allowing: 

And if it doesn’t get any more challenging, this mindset shift is the icing on the cake. Allowing is equivalent to surrendering. When we surrender, we give up control and let someone else take the reins. As a recovering control freak, I struggle with this one the most. But I’ve realized that I don’t have to. And I’ve found a little trick that helps me with this.

Find a comfortable spot to let yourself either sit or lie down. You should be able to slouch and get really relaxed, so keep that in mind when selecting your spot.  

  1. First, take 3 deep breaths.
  2. Second, relax your entire body starting from your head to your toes. Literally feel the sinking of your body into whatever it is you’re on.
  3. Now envision yourself on a bed of golden leaves, in golden light. The bed is supporting you and holding you. 
  4. Repeat to yourself: I am safe. I am held. I am protected.

This is practice that really revitalizes my faith in something bigger than myself, and it also helps me to simply allow them (whether it’s the universe or God or your angels) to take control.

And there you go, 3 shifts to carry you through the end of 2020. This year has been life-changing for me and I’m sure you as well in so many ways. And while we have all grown in some way, my commitment is to continue the transformation for as long as it lasts.

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18 Motivational Quotes that will Inspire You

18 Motivational Quotes that will Inspire You to Achieve Your 2018 Resolutions

It’s that time of the month in January when people begin to slack or give up on their resolutions. Whether you have made personal and/or professional resolutions this year, now is the time to create and retain lasting habits that serve your end goals. In this blog, I’m showcasing a roundup of quotes from renown influencers and leaders that will hopefully help you create those daily habits, and if you’ve made resolutions, help you stick to them. Remember, setbacks and problems are part of the journey, but getting back on your feet and staying determined will define and demonstrate the level of success you wish to achieve. Here’s a mid-January pick-me-up just for you:

Neil Armstrong:
“I believe every human has a finite number of heartbeats. I don’t intend to waste any of mine.”

Charles Darwin:
“It is not the strongest species that survive, nor the most intelligent, but the most responsive to change.”

Walt Disney:
“If you can dream it, you can do it.”

Thomas Edison:
“Our greatest weakness lies in giving up. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.”

Tim Ferriss:
“The stars will never align, and the traffic lights of life will never all be green at the same time. The universe doesn’t conspire against you, but it doesn’t go out of its way to line up the pins either. Conditions are never perfect. ‘Someday’ is a disease that will take your dreams to the grave with you. Pro and con lists are just as bad. If it’s important to you and you want to do it ‘eventually,’ just do it and correct course along the way.”

Thomas Jefferson:
“I find that the harder I work, the more luck I seem to have.”

Helen Keller:
“Keep your face to the sunshine and you can never see the shadow.”

Charles Kettering:
“Keep on going, and the chances are that you will stumble on something, perhaps when you are least expecting it. I never heard of anyone ever stumbling on something sitting down.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.:
“If you can’t fly then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward.”

Dalai Lama:
“The purpose of our lives is to be happy.”

Marissa Mayer:
“If you can push through that feeling of being scared, that feeling of taking a risk, really amazing things can happen.”

Barack Obama:
“The real test is not whether you avoid this failure, because you won’t. It’s whether you let it harden or shame you into inaction, or whether you learn from it; whether you choose to persevere.”

Tony Robbins:
“People who succeed have momentum. The more they succeed, the more they want to succeed, and the more they find a way to succeed. Similarly, when someone is failing, the tendency is to get on a downward spiral that can even become a self-fulfilling prophecy.”

Jim Rohn:
“If you really want to do something, you’ll find a way. If you don’t, you’ll find an excuse.”

Eleanor Roosevelt:
“You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along. You must do the thing you think you cannot do.”

Socrates:
“The secret of change is to focus all your energy not on fighting the old but on building the new.”

Oprah Winfrey:
“Step out of the history that is holding you back. Step into the new story you are willing to create.”

Kate Winslet:
“Life is short, and it is here to be lived.”

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CGC: Take Your Vision to the Next Level

Take Your Vision to the Next Level for 2018

Everything has to start with your vision. If I were to ask you what is your vision for 1 year, 2 years or 5 years, would you know?

For the purposes of this blog, we’ll focus on the vision for your business. This vision has to be so clear in your mind that you can painstakingly describe it in the smallest detail. Your vision is more than just a goal or a specific target to achieve something. It answers your why. It gives direction because it’s your desired future. It’s your passion and keeps you excited and motivated. It’s what inspires you to do whatever it is you want to do. Once you have this, you can create goals that are in line with your vision, particularly branding and marketing related goals.

One of the ways that I have focused (and refocused) my vision was through The Desire Map, by Danielle LaPorte. This book includes excerpts and exercises to help you create your vision based on how you want to feel. For many years, I’ve established daily, monthly and annual goals. I’m a list-person, so this process fueled my need for organization. However, I realized that it felt too routine-oriented and didn’t impact my true desires. This book focuses on how you want to feel in various parts of your life, instead of talking about external goals.

In her piece, entitled “The dark side of big goals,” Danielle writes:

“The ego loves big goals like a sugar addict loves sugar. The ego will tell you that the bigger the goals you have, the bigger the person you are.

I should probably tell you now that I’m the kind of person who has very big goals. And if we had tea to jam on your life, and if you had even an iota of ambition, I would probably take that iota and get alchemical with it and blow it sky high. So, I’m the last person to be down on big goals. But I am usually the first person to ask, “So…Why do you want what you want?” Because…

You are not your goals. Your goals don’t dictate your worth.

Why is it helpful to keep this in mind? Because when you can detach your identity and self-worth from the size of your goals, you can see your heart’s vision. It may be wildly ambitious. It might actually be very simple and sweet. (The simple goals often take you the deepest into yourself.) When you know that your soul is the steady power source, and that ambition is for play — you can choose to go big, or go home, and be fulfilled either way.”

This Holiday season, I challenge you to step back and think about your business’ vision, and when developing it, focus on the feelings you want to feel on your path to success!

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Workshop: “How Do I Get the Word Out about My Business?”

You’re Invited to a Special Launch of the Tribe & CGC Marketing Workshop Series

“How Do I Get the Word Out about My Business?”

This workshop is for those independent practitioners and small business owners who find marketing their businesses to be challenging, tiresome, disingenuous, and intimidating.

If you’re feeling stuck, lost, or simply wanting more out of how you currently promote your business, then this workshop will help you:

  • Learn how to create a brand message with a unique selling proposition,
  • Learn how to differentiate yourself amongst your competition,
  • Learn about the online and offline marketing options available to you,
  • Learn about the pros and cons of each marketing option,
  • Learn about the top 3 best practices for each marketing option, and
  • Learn how to create a plan of action and marketing schedule that works for you.

It’s time to empower yourself with tools that will help you generate more business, re-engage past and inactive clientele, and become more secure and confident in how you present your business to the world.

This marketing workshop series will include lecture, exercises, discussion, take-home materials and Q & A breaks. For those unable to attend the first workshop, a video link can be provided for the same price.

Pricing:

This is regularly priced at $50.00, but it will be discounted at a special price to celebrate the launch of the 2018 Marketing Series hosted by Tribe and CGC. Details for this series to come!

$10.00 for Tribe members

$15.00 for the general public

REGISTER HERE!

Marketing Worshop KickOff

How to Take Advantage of a long Holiday Weekend

How to Take Advantage of a Long Weekend

The “official” last weekend of summer is fast approaching. As a long holiday weekend, you most likely have an extra day off to add to a normal weekend. My guess is you’re dreaming about the beaches, the parties and the backyard barbecues. But have you thought about the ways in which you could really take advantage of this time and improve your wellbeing? Research has shown that shutting down every so often helps us avoid burnout. There’s no better time than a long holiday weekend to do so! Here’s how:

  1. Take advantage of your Friday (at least before noon). There’s a reason why businesses have “casual Fridays.” To many of us, Fridays are flexible days in which we do as much work as we can. However, Friday is there for you to prepare for your long relaxing weekend. Check in with your colleagues about any project updates, clean up your office, finish any pressing tasks, and create a clear plan of action for Tuesday. This is your Friday “to-do” list, and if you accomplish each one, you’ll hit the ground running when you return.
  2. Take advantage of your laptop case and your charging docks. When you’ve completed your checklist on Friday, put your phones and laptops away. Don’t leave them out to check your email every 20 minutes. That’s not unplugging. There’s nothing worse than sitting and staring at screens during your time off. Unplug and try to use as little technology as possible. We all know how excessive device use can impact our sleep, but why make yourself more prone to eye strain. At least for the long weekend, sleep better and keep your mind clear.
  3. Take advantage of “do nothing” time. Personally, my calendar Monday through Saturday is usually booked solid. Everything within my daily plan takes up a specific block of time, whether it’s meetings, projects, errands, workouts, dinner reservations, meal prep and planning, or even just moments I get to meditate. Sundays are my days to be completely uncommitted and unscheduled. Sometimes it’s okay if your plans include a little bit of nothing. Schedule it in and see what happens!

Take a few days to rejuvenate and rest. Focus only on your friends, your family, and most importantly, yourself! Not only will you come back feeling renewed, but you’re more likely to be more creative and act more energized.

What’s your plan for unplugging this weekend?

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